Sorry I haven’t wrote in a while. I’m up late working my butt off.
But I wanted to say that your comments are amazing. Most of the time when your wife is a bitch, you feel like the only one in the world with a wife that has a mouth that won’t shut the fuck up. Then I would head to a bar drink a few beers and start to look at other broads.
But your comments make me feel that shit isn’t that bad. Some of you guys have it worse than me. So this little tidbit is to thank you all for your comments.
I’m going to keep writing. Cuz shit happens and I need to let it all out here.
So for now, Thank you. I’m going to get drunk this weekend and just let it all out here.
This weekend is a toast to all the guys that have bitch wives.
What’s up Guys? Trying to find a place to just let out all the stress from my shitty marriage and my bitch ass wife. Like many here I have two young kids whom I love and that’s the only reason for me not kicking her ass to the curb. I’m married to a Japanese woman, and live in Japan.
In Japan, the bond in the marriage is between the mother and the kids. The husband is just the schmuck who brings home the paycheck. After marriage, sex is basically non-existent. I haven’t had sex with my wife for coming on two years and the fucked up part is that she thinks it’s normal. No kissing, no hugging, no holding hands…zero. In fact, I’ve reached the point, where after many attempts to get romantic and subsequently being rejected by her, I just don’t give a rat’s ass if I ever touch her again.
Many Japanese husbands have girlfriends or they’re alcoholics cause life at home just sucks. You may hear about how Japanese businessmen work long hours and are so dedicated employees?? Crock of shit! Let me tell you it’s NOT cause they love working as many in the West think. It’s because they don’t wanna go home at night and listen to the wife complaining about how ‘hard’ of a day she had when most of it was spent watching TV, chatting with friends..bla bla bla….
Classic example of why I hate her so much. We fly back to my home country once a year to visit my parents. My parents are so good to us, and yet my wife only thinks that going back once a year is too often. We spend too much money, it’s not fun for her, the kids don’t like flying….etc etc etc…….
I guess I only have myself to blame for not knowing all this shit about the culture here and how life is for couples here after marriage. Since I have kids whom I love more than anything, I can’t say that I regret marrying her. I’m just hoping she’ll have an affair or ask me for a divorce which will give me a reason to grant her one so long as she gives me full custody of the kids.
I would feel sad if I divorced her but only for my kids sake. My Australian friend is in the same boat as me as are many Westerners who are married to a Japanese. The culture is just totally opposite to ours.
The only peace I have is my weekly Friday night drinking session with my ex-pat friends where we get drunk as skunks and listen to each others problems and rip on our wives.
My youngest is 11yrs old. I’ll do my best to stick it out until he’s 20 and becomes a man (in Japan adulthood officially starts from the age of 20). Then I’ll get divorced. But I’m sure I’ll be freaking dead from stress long before that! Thanks for listening…I mean reading! Cheers!
Mikey!
I love my wife so much. She does try–intermittently–to please me, nurture the 3 kids, and keep the house in order. We make love often, and with a small measure of creativity. And she’s verbally supportive of my ambitions. The honeymoon phase is long over, but our relationship seems surprisingly stable.
She doesn’t, however, let me do a full day’s study (getting that degree, finally) and expects ME to do the majority of household duties. And kid’s baths. And dirty diapers. And most meals (but not grocery shopping… which I would). Gets pissed if I rock her boat or elevate my voice. Or mention getting a part-time job; or daycare. Or try to take much time for myself.
I guess I’m just frustrated that she doesn’t take my role as provider seriously, especially since we agreed she’d be a homemaker. I’d love if she took that more seriously, too. And yes, she spends a good percentage of our money.
She’s got a temper, a mouth she keeps in check pretty well, and a few extra pounds–but she is trying hard, and I do appreciate it.
We’ll be okay, but man, oh man does she need to step it up to keep this family afloat. I’m not a pushover by any means, I just enjoy serving others and I’m patient. Now I feel like she’s taking advantage of my good nature. I’m still in love with this still-fun girl and want our dreams to come true, but I can’t do it all, and 7 years in, it’s wearing on me now.
I am really glad i found this site, i was about to create one myself. I feel for you.
I know what its like when a wife is a bitch but mine is really something. A true bitch through and through. Nothing makes her happy , everything is about her. She has toally alienated me from my friends and family i have nothing anymore. I have a beutiful baby daughter that i just cant live with out, and the worst thing is she will use her and say things you’ll never see your daughter again. I mean what kind of shit is that. i cant see my friends, whenevr i do she starts whinging that you never take me out which is bullshit. The slightest thing anyone that is close to me says that might upset her she goes on a warpath and says i dont do enough to protect her for fuck sake people will say things that she probably wont like it’s the way of the world. But hey such is life i could go on but will come back later….